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Dias de Los Muertos | Claudia

How do you keep the memory of a passed loved one alive?

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"The holidays are around the corner. Soon everybody will start getting excited as the days approach.  Parents like myself, are always looking forward to those days with our kids. Our family has always been very united, especially around the holidays.  We all look forward to getting together to share, dance, have a few drinks and of course eat.  However, six months ago we received the terrible news that my uncle passed away.  He was very close to our family and especially close to me.  Since then, everyday has been difficult knowing that he is no longer with us.  I have so many memories of him, especially around the holidays.  This year is going to be very difficult; I know it.  I'm coming to terms with the fact that he's no longer here to share, dance and tell his jokes; it fills my heart with sadness.  My husband has always said that our loved ones never die.  That they are always with us as long as we keep their memory alive in our hearts.  I love that and I want to believe that. 

How do I keep his memory alive?  I go to the cemetery often to pray and talk to him about the things that are happening in our family.  It feels like he is listening to what I'm saying and I feel peace in my heart.  At times our family might have a meal there and my boys will bring their soccer medals; they play in his honor.  Like my boys, my uncle loved soccer!  Orange was his favorite color and we wear orange bracelets in memory of him. One day I would love to plant a tree somewhere in Sacramento in honor of him.  When I talk about my uncle I know it keeps his memory alive and I have hope that one day we will see each other again.

Listen, enjoy every single moment that you can with your love ones.  Cherish them, hug them and tell them how much you love them.  Make the holidays special and continue building memories in your heart!"